Hindsight: Experiencing God in the Mundane and the Manic
Poppy in Trolls plays with the trope. She definitely fits the personality type, especially and she fills a platonic version of the plot to Bridget who's ironically voiced by Zooey Deschanel — convincing her to pursue the man she loves. But then again all the trolls are like that and although Poppy eventually does get the cynical Branch to liven up — she only ropes him into her scheme because she needs his help rescuing her friends. Later, he helps Minku, a poor boy who is frequently bullied by most of his classmates. It makes sense why he acts so bubbly: he's only three months old.
By the end of the film, Maruti already transformed into Hanuman told Minku to be strong before left the village. Films — Live-Action. Muriel Pritchett Geena Davis in The Accidental Tourist plays a quirky dog trainer who helps both the dog and his owner, Macon Leary William Hurt , a repressed and grieving travel writer who is mourning the death of his son and his marriage. Upon meeting Muriel, Macon's life changes in ways he comes to view as healing. However, in the novel, Muriel is more manic-depressive — she sometimes becomes moody and sour, even neglecting her son.
In Adam , both Adam and Beth have elements of this towards each other. The story is about a young teacher dating a young man with Autism in Manhattan. The story ends with the two breaking up , but it is a Bittersweet Ending because the two have gained a greater understanding from each other: Beth writes a book on her experience, and Adam seems more socially adjusted and happier in his new job.
Amy Adams played a lot of these earlier in her career: Giselle from Enchanted , who has the excuse of being a fairy tale character who suddenly fell into Robert's life. She helps him loosen up , and even helps him with his relationship, only to end up falling for him. For his part, Robert helps her find some firmer ground. Delysia Lafosse to uptight British governess Miss Pettigrew in Miss Pettigrew Lives for a Day , although there's a bit of sharing going on and Delysia actually matures because of Miss Pettigrew as well.
Amelia Earhart in Night at the Museum: Battle of the Smithsonian plays this trope down to the letter for the main character, Larry. Subverted in that Larry doesn't undergo any real changes after spending time with her, she's just there to act as a foil to his more reserved personality. Elise in The Adjustment Bureau has the quirky personality of the MPDG down pat — she meets the hero in the men's washroom when she is hiding from security from having crashed a wedding, and later drops his phone into his coffee to stop him talking to his assistant — but her role in the story is an aversion and possibly even a deconstruction.
Not only does she have her own dreams of becoming a top ballet dancer, but she spends much of the movie independently pursuing them while the protagonist who is far from boring or emotionless spends most of his time pursuing her. The deconstruction comes in when the titular agency suggests that her influence on David is only good for him in small doses.
The washroom encounter inspires him to ditch a pre-written speech and make an improvised one about how his media appearance is all calculated and artificial, getting him a popular reputation as a man of the people. An agent of the Bureau claims that it was meant to be a one-off encounter, and that if he continued to be with her, her influence would encourage him to make increasingly reckless decisions that would eventually cost him his political career.
Subverted in Martin Scorsese's black comedy After Hours. The girl the hero meets at the start turns out to be seriously disturbed and kills herself halfway through the movie. Though she avoids the stereotypical MPDG ending dead or with the guy — she almost dies of an overdose, only to be saved by William, then breaks it off with Russell to go live her own MPDG life in Morocco without either love interest. But, of course, in doing all this she shows Russell the error of his ways so that he can make things right with William, helping both of them toward stardom. She doesn't really have any goals beside helping others and later get her man.
To anyone who's seen that movie, that may seem Jennifer Aniston seems to play a lot of these roles. She plays a quirky flower-shop owner in Love Happens teaching Aaron Eckhart how to love again and heal after his wife's death. The title character is a cheerful Bohemian, who turns out to be a spoiled, unfocused, pseudointellectual, neurotic child in an adult's body; a horribly broken person. Which gives her something in common with Woody Allen's character, who is likewise horribly broken, just in somewhat different ways. At the end of the movie, it turns out that Alvy was something of a Manic Pixie Dream Guy for Annie, in terms of teaching her how to have more confidence in her abilities and helping her to improve her own life, while most of his problems remain unsolved.
Manic Pixie Dream Girl
Winona Ryder 's character Charlotte in Autumn In New York is a beautiful artist who suffers from a rare heart disease , and teaches a self-centered, skirt-chasing Richard Gere about life and love. Barefoot takes this a step beyond with the pair-up of dour, debt-owing Jay and carefree Womanchild Daisy, who, yes, Does Not Like Shoes and blurts out things like "I have to go potty" and "My mom told me driving gets you pregnant.
Daisy is actually from a mental institution. Ben X has Scarlite, a girl the autistic protagonist Ben plays with in an RPG who talks him out of suicide and inspires him to stand up to the bullying he endures at school. It's subverted, however, by the Scarlite we see for most of the film turning out to be an imaginary construct of Ben's mind.
Joon is a mentally-ill woman who falls for him as it comes to light that they understand each other in a way other people don't. Her brother Benny, who's taken care of her all these years, is the uptight character wary of her getting involved with someone else, and has to accept that he's not only being overprotective but also neglecting his personal happiness by worrying so much. In Better Off Dead , Monique plays this role for Lane, helping pull him out of his depression after his girlfriend dumps him.
Sam Rockwell plays the buddy-movie equivalent in Box of Moonlight. He wears a Davy Crockett costume and teaches John Turturro to love life; while there's no romance, there's certainly a lot of naked swimming. In Breakfast at Tiffany's Audrey Hepburn plays the quirky, wild child of a neighbor.
However, the protagonist eventually tells her to get over herself. Although she doesn't insinuate herself into his life so much as yank him bodily into hers. Another gender-flipped example, Rhodes is this to Annie in Bridesmaids. His main function in the plot is to make kooky observations about vegetables and encourage Annie to follow her dreams. It's a slightly more nuanced example than most: his biggest romantic gesture is presented as at best well-meaning but tone-deaf, and while he encourages her to follow her dreams by returning to her love of baking and dream of owning a business , he also encourages her to deal with the mundane realities of her life by fixing her tail light.
She also repeatedly tells him that she doesn't need him to "fix" her. She really loves the Durham Bulls, and she knows so much about both baseball and the finer things in life that when she dates a player she picks one per season he has the best year of his career. She has a lot of fun with a bunch of strapping young men, helps the team improve at the same time, and makes no apologies for it.
Subverted with Cabaret 's Sally Bowles, who demonstrates just how messed up this kind of character tends to be in real life. She and Brian have a lot of fun at first but it's soon illustrated that she loves her partying lifestyle too much and she aborts their baby because she doesn't think she's mother material.
The last scene of the film has her performing a number that implies she's going to continue a life of fun and frivolity — but the crowd is full of Nazi officers, implying Sally's fun won't last too long. Dylan Morgan in Cas and Dylan is a wannabe writer—as well as a chronic liar, compulsive shoplifter, and general-purpose motormouth who bums a cross-country car ride with Cas Pepper, a widowed doctor who is dying of an inoperable brain tumor.
Subverted in that not only is there no romance between the two, Cas also goes through with his plan to end his life—yet ends up enriching Dylan's life by leaving her all his earthly possessions. Chungking Express , features Faye the "California Dreamin'"-obsessed snack bar girl: to help a police officer get over his breakup with a flight attendant, she frequently breaks into and floods his apartment, switches the labels on all his canned foods, and rearranges his furniture.
Eventually, he falls for her, but she stands him up and decides to "see the world" by becoming — yes — a flight attendant. But don't worry: everything works out okay. Molly, played by Emily Mortimer, in City Island , is the catalyst to resolve the dysfunctional family's problems, but her own are not touched on until near the end of the film or resolved during its course, though one could optimistically interpret the manner of her self-effacing withdrawal from the action as her taking the first step towards doing so.
Cluny in Cluny Brown has an unusual love of plumbing, enriches the lives of others when she's around, and is rather confused about social orders, especially in the very Stiff Upper Lip house she goes to live in as a maid. Zooey Deschanel is often identified with this character type in general, although many of her other roles play with the trope rather than serve it up straight. Allison from the Jim Carrey film Yes-Man is a subversion.
Her quirky hobbies are entirely for herself, and she's pretty horrified at the idea of just being a tool for Carl's happiness. She also calls him out when he tells her that she's so fearless, and explains that of course she has her own fears, and that she's also perfectly happy living her life without him. She plays the role completely straight in the Hollywood film version of The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy , in which her character was Promoted to Love Interest. Rabin defines a Manic Pixie Dream Girl as a character who "exists solely in the fevered imaginations of sensitive writer-directors to teach broodingly soulful young men to embrace life and its infinite mysteries and adventures".
When Kirsten Dunst was asked about the term directly, she didn't like it. Clementine in Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind is this type of character, though the relationship plays out more realistically. She even references the "you complete me" line, to her distaste, from Jerry Maguire. She also lampshades this to a certain degree, saying that Joel shouldn't expect her to "save" him, and that she's "just a fucked-up girl looking for her own peace of mind. It's like, you secure yourself with this amazing, burning meteorite to carry you to another world, a world where things are exciting.
But, what you quickly learn is that it's really an elaborate ruse. Harry: Quirky, messy women whose problems only make them endearing are not real. Beatrice is the most loving, humble, and beautiful woman in the world, so Dante dedicates his whole life to her despite talking to her once before her death. We don't hear much from her or learn what she does with her life and instead only learn about her through her affects on the male lead.
In The Divine Comedy , Dante has lost his way in life until Beatrice comes down from Heaven to send her lover on the right track through a bizarre journey through the afterlife. The poem builds anticipation for when Beatrice lovingly reunites with Dante, only to unbuild the trope by having Beatrice coldly condemn her lover and make it clear that improving him is going to involve more harshness than manic glee. Fenchurch in So Long, and Thanks for All the Fish , although, really, she's probably the only woman on Earth weird enough to fall in love with Arthur Dent. And then she vanishes into an error in space-time.
However, while Colleen helps Ben, Ben is unable to help Colleen and she ends up back on drugs. The title character of the Jerry Spinelli book Stargirl worked her magic on an entire high school. That also makes her a Blithe Spirit. Stargirl was interesting because her manic pixie behavior didn't make the main character more popular or comfortable around other people, and clashed with his desire for normalcy.
Things didn't work out. Her husband, the protagonist Shadow, thought of her as someone playful and spontaneous who brought excitement into his life. On the other hand, she was the one who convinced him to participate in the robbery that got him sent to jail for three years and cheated on him with his best friend while he was in prison. She tried to justify her affair on the grounds that, even if she did really love Shadow, there were times that he was just so empty that she needed somebody else. She plays a further deconstruction when after becoming a zombie , she helps Shadow by pretending to be a Manic Pixie Dream Girl having a Meet Cute with one of the mooks.
He is shown thinking about how her spontaneity has given him a new outlook on life, and is brutally murdered by her shortly afterward. Sage from Almost Perfect can be considered this from the moment she's introduced until she tells Logan she's Transsexual. The Culture novel The Player of Games has a character, Yay, who is a love interest of the protagonist and has a markedly playful personality. She's something of a subversion, in that her Manic Pixie Dream Girl personality makes her a better fit for the hedonism of the Culture than does the protagonist's discomfort with a life without challenges.
Repeatedly deconstructed in John Green 's books. Word of God confirms this and Green says he hates this trope played straight. He partly wrote Paper Towns to deconstruct this trope further out of concerns that he didn't do a thorough enough job of it with Looking for Alaska which does deconstruct the trope, but in a different and arguably more abstract manner, and is primarily focused on death and suffering and how we individually figure out how to deal with their inevitable reality : that the people whom we idealize are in fact just as vulnerable, selfish, flawed, and self-destructive as anyone else, if not more so.
Through Miles "Pudge" 's eyes, Alaska is a goddess, but she repeatedly shows warning signs of emotional instability and a Dark and Troubled Past that he ignores due to it not fitting in with his idealized image of her. She calls him out on this, too, after an emotional meltdown at the end of Thanksgiving Break, pointing out to him that he likes the sexy Hard-Drinking Party Girl side of her and not the "crazy sullen bitch" she sees herself as.
The point's only driven in further by everything that Pudge discovers in the "After" Section of the book — mainly that the self-destructive behaviors that Pudge and the others liked and encouraged in her led to her death. A principal point of the novel is that this trope is an unhealthy and unsustainable view of someone because it doesn't allow them to be a real person. Paper Towns : Margo Roth Spiegelman embodies this trope, at first, having been Quentin's crush for all of his life and taking him on a pranking adventure at the beginning of the story.
She's seen this way by most of the other kids at school as well, due to her frequent disappearances and similarly enigmatic behavior. Reliably, though, she's not all that she seems. The final part of Q's journey is understanding that she's a real person who isn't responsible for him and has her own problems and fears. He then lets her, and the dream of her, go. She was not a fine and precious thing.
She was a girl. Live-Action TV. Early on Dharma fits the trope, but as with most characters in a successful, long running show Character Development sets in and she eventually becomes a more complex, well rounded individual with her own wants and desires. There are even some episodes that invert it, with Greg helping her realize that her "quirky" methods are not always for the best.
Skins : Cassie Ainsworth is a Deconstructed Character Archetype , since she has multiple legitimate psychological problems and they're portrayed with all the seriousness they require. She doesn't exist solely as a love interest for Sid, but whenever the story is focusing on him this is clearly how he sees her. She's quite self-serving at times, and it's debatable whether she ultimately changes his life for the better. She makes him blissfully happy at times, and utterly miserable at others. A relationship with someone so mentally unstable they try to commit suicide when you cancel a date was never going to run entirely smoothly.
Cassie is no longer the wild, carefree pill popping girl she one was and has now depressingly matured into a young lonely woman who rarely socialises. She has seemingly out grown this trope and has realised being a 'Manic Pixie Dream Girl' in the real world can never work.
In season 6, a lovelorn Alo meets a sweet, bubbly girl named Poppy Champion who pulls him out of his depression with her quirky and adorable ways. That is, until she reveals that she's really thirteen years old , and she reports him to the police when he tries to dump her. Subverted on Dexter. Lila initially seems to have all the personality traits of a Manic Pixie Dream Girl, and she latches onto Dexter, the main character, a forensic scientist who also happens to be an emotionless serial killer who only kills people who really deserve it.
As the series goes on, though, she starts showing the dark side of mania : her antics go from amusing to dangerous, and she stops being charming and starts being scary. Dexter: You are more dangerous than my addiction will ever be. And that's saying a lot. Abed: He'd run after her and make a fantastic display of affection!
He's the new guy, not easily reformed by some quirky girl that he met at work! The Dead Milkmen 's song "Punk Rock Girl" plays this trope enthusiastically straight, with a dweeby narrator describing a series of playfully violent encounters with an unnamed female other. We got into her car Away we started rollin' I said "How much you pay for this? She's a butterfly in mid-July Who just can't wait to try her brand new wings On brand new things And she needs no rhyme or reason when she goes Her mind is on what lies beyond That wall of blue horizon, I suppose And heaven knows She'll go sailin' off on any old wind that blows.
As she is beautiful, she's unpredictable, Damned irresistible, is it plausible to hate her? She is my common sense, revels on decadence, But what's the difference, it's impossible to bait her. Mythology and Religion. It's understood that a relationship with such a literal manic pixie is doomed to end with the human lover losing his mind from exposure to the sidhe's alien ways, or have his life drained away from the sheer excitement she causes him to have.
It's also implied that a human may die from despair , as he knows the pixie will leave him one day and he'll never find anyone like her ever again among a human population. Mermaids tend to have this effect on fishermen in Nautical Folklore. Stand-up Comedy. Simon Amstell of Grandma's House and Never Mind the Buzzcocks , discusses and deconstructs the trope in all but name in his show Do Nothing : "I was in Paris recently with a new group of people, one of whom was a sort of kooky interesting girl, though in hindsight not that interesting.
I always get fooled, I always think, Oh she seems fascinating. Is she, Simon? Or does she just have short hair? And I guess telling you about that now, it sounds exciting and fun, but at the time I just thought, Why would we do that? The entire Musical is basically about this trope played with in multiple ways. Of the three; Mimi and Maureen both rail against their lovers' objectifying them as such, dealing as they are with their own respective emotional turmoil.
Mental Health in Historical Perspective
The only true essential Manic Pixie Dream Queen is Angel, not just for his lover Tom Collins but for the entire show, as his joie de vivre , boundless generosity and loving energy serve as both a model and moral compass against which every other character measures his or her own self-defeating behavior and emotional incontinence.
Of course he dies in act two thus fulfilling the transient aspect of the archetype. Classic example: Maria in The Sound of Music. She's often overlooked as an example of the trope, because she's really trying her best to be a mature, motherly type in addition to being a nun.
There's an entire song dedicated to her MPDG tendencies, sung by the other nuns in her abbey who are frustrated with her childlike flightiness and apparent inattention to the reservation demanded of her as a nun. Deconstructed as far back as Ibsen's A Doll's House , in which the heroine Nora is a seemingly flighty, vivacious, kooky child-woman who gradually realizes that she's been so working so hard at playing this role for her more conventional husband — even through bearing him three children — that she has never really grown up and has no idea of her true self, and that their relationship is thus only a game, not adult love.
She leaves him to try and learn how to be a fully formed human being. Subverted in the musical Cabaret : Sally tries to be a Manic Pixie for Cliff, but her determined spunky optimism and unwillingness to grow up make her ignore the threat of Nazism and drive Cliff away from her. The very dark Donmar Warehouse production played her eventually as an outright nihilistic Death Seeker. Susan Hollander from Woody Allen's Don't Drink the Water is borderline the definition of this trope as her only personality trait other then that she is a Satellite Love Interest for major screw-up Axel is that she is somewhat of a hippie the fact that the show was written and set in The '60s helps.
Carmen deconstructs this: she's a Hot Gypsy Woman who seduces and enchants the lead male, Don Jose, with her free-spirited nature, but quickly tires of him as he proclaims his everlasting love for her. Turns out she's not so much for the forever love, and she leaves him for someone much more exciting. As a result, he kills her out of jealousy at the end of the opera.
The Neil Simon play Barefoot in the Park explores the relationship of Manic Pixie Dream Girl and her dull love interest; fun loving Cory flickers between trying to spice up her housewife roles and pouting that her new husband won't pay attention to her, while Paul struggles with his wife's playful nature he loves and focusing on the career he kind of needs. It's a romantic comedy but does show the MPDG Cory as childish and needing to grow up if she wants her marriage to really work.
It ends with them switching roles and Cory learning to worry a little about the result of her actions. Your marriage is huge. Start with the premise that he is not going to change because he is hard-structured that way. He would never want to hurt you. He only wants to help. He is also human and hurting. So you have to start with this idea of being completely submissive. He is in charge.
He is sane. You are not. He is the only one there for you, all the time. He can train you. Hopefully this transcends into your sex life and end up having great regular sex. So now we have established alot of end to argument , he is happy, getting his way, and it all is actually helping your lifestyle and your health. You have to start with the idea that giving him everything and he getting his way….
Actually gets you what you want. Especially in the end. This is called playing your shit cards in life in a smart way, so you win in the end. Try to buy a nasal spray online that contains oxytocin. I can supply a much more potent prescription version though. Bedtime cuddling. As a woman, you need this from your man. This is something he must agree to because its all about give and take. Oxytocin is a natural thing in the body that is released when you hug someone. It also makes you empathetic. You need lots of cuddling. You need to feel secure and protected and safe.
Helping his heart wrench…somewhat. Use your brain and formulate articulate sentences that you relate to the sufferers. In HIS language. So firstly, getting his empathy is great, then the happy ending. Often these documentaries have a happy ending. He has too much DHT Testosterone. No heavy weights. DHT Testosterone kills empathy. Pine Pinus sp.
Trust me. The doorway to despair. I was just put on Trileptal because, as is the nature of mental illness, I sank into a depressive episode. I told myself that it was situational. I welled up, broke down, shook my head and plopped down on her sofa. He has his own health issues to deal with, and work, and his child.
He always, eventually, responds. I was diagnosed with BipolarII in middle adulthood after 3 years of abstinent sobriety in a 12 step program. I have been treated with religious pharmaceutical compliance and regular check ups with a psychiatrist and at times, in tandem with counseling. It was very difficult in the first 4 years of treatment to begin to identify and separate out the symptoms and effects of what was purely brain chemistry versus psychological and developmental deficiencies related to having struggled through my teen years undiagnosed and untreated, and then complicated by the dynamics of addition and drug and alcohol recovery.
Even before addiction played a leading role in my inability to function normally hold down a steady job, combat overwhelming depression and fatigue that kept me in bed for nearly 20 hours a day months at a time , I was baffled by how other people could function where I just could not.
So I just did. The combined therapies over time began to help me make improvements that did in fact change my entire life. It is not always easy, even with the best fine tuning of treatment to recognize when I have swings and rapid cycling, or mixed states until my relationships become problematic and my ability to focus is out of whack. I tend to think I am just fine, as I am able to hold a steady and highly challenging job without much difficulty.
And at times I am able to experience emotional intensity and still gather appropriate insight to my feelings and thoughts. Is my boyfriend truly always finding reasons to withdraw from me or lacking passion and enthusiasm for me , or is it a bipolar obsession tugging relentlessly at my moods and distorting my perceptions?
He can gush over animals and babies but appear completely distant and discompassionate even impatient or irritated in response to the emotional displays of adults. In our relationship this poses several problems for me. He is logical and favors analysis.
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He was capable of hugs and kisses and holding my hand in public when he first met me, but his response to my seeking that attention now only produce the opposite effect. I have become obsessed with the idea that he has fallen out of love, out of lust, out of passion, out of concern, out of adoration…. I have become obsessed with thoughts that he directs his passion and enthusiasm and tenderness toward anyone and anything other than me- that he may have a relationship on the side, that his quiet and need for privacy indicate that he is keeping something from me.
I am defaulting to an idea of what would apparently be normal behavior for a man towards a woman he loves, who he looks forward to spending time with. He considers us married. I am obsessively looking for reasons to feel secure to combat the overwhelming sense that he does not feel for me the way I feel for him. A normal person in love would greet their mate with affection after coming home from a long day at work.
A normal person would look forward to and plan events from time to time for a date, alone time, romance…. He appears like a normal person when greeting our pets, our grandchild, his daughters, but I sense the opposite when he greets me. I can talk to him about this and ask him to clarify what are his thoughts and feelings under the seemingly dampened response to me, and he does the classic shutdown and shows anger and frustration toward me, making it impossible to meet in the middle and have a discussion — even when I am not emotional or showing that I am hurt by it.
The obsessive thoughts I have occupy me with the idea that I need to find a way to be happy without the affection and emotional connections I expect in a committed relationship. At the same time, I have a job which requires me to accurately assess social and emotional dynamics in the individuals and families I provide Hospice care for.
Is that Bipolar? Or am I just in a relationship that I cannot make work for me? Daily I am walking the checks and balances of my thoughts regarding the relationship, and dealing with feelings that have at times overwhelmed and saddened me to the point that I just do not appear to be myself. Is that depression? Mixed state? The fact that I have written this much in a comment, without making much of a point, cue me in to some kind of bipolar activity rearing its ugly eye here.
Would welcome feedback about my mental earworms. Every three days it seems like it stops then comes back the next three days. I dunno whether I should see someone. Found this from Googling bipolar and earworms. I was just diagnosed last year, and a pattern I have noticed is that I get phenomenal earworms at the beginning of a big swing in either direction. Parts of movies, sometimes several scenes at once, play over and over, and it will start to feel like the characters are shouting at me, personally.
WIhat a positive way to wind up my day not sarcastic. My times at home are filled with audobooks and public radio in order to keep the ever churning thoughts at bay. I need the external racket to block out the internal racket. When I was younger it perhaps worked. After all these years it is good to know that others obsess over conversations, shoulda, woulda couldas and such. Yes it might be paranoia, but not always. I had a minor melt and two new friends were there and trying to comfort me.
Nothing to comfort. Their attempts to help made it worse. After about 5 minutes of trying to quietly communicate this in the public library they let it drop. It was also starting to cause a noticeable tic. I tend to ruminate obsessively in a circulate fashion about an issue that i find worrisome. Over and over again like a broken record.
Well not necessarily. I also have GAD. Anxiety tends to feed this monster. And all of this perpetuates a massive amout of stress which in turn creates other problems. So for me I need to nip it in the bud early or find something else less worrisome to distract me. Paul W. That was profoundly helpful. About a year and a half ago I was taken on much of my bipolar medication by a overzealous psychiatrist my symptoms has been mostly controlled for 14 years. So, now I work as a faculty member at a major university and the obsessive thoughts are becoming problematic.
My new psychiatrist has added an antidepressant to combat the depression that followed the medication change. We are seeing how I can do with only one mood stabilizer, but every time I get stressed I fixate on a female former research assistant. I stopped working with her because the obsessive thoughts were creating problems in my marriage as you can imagine. I am an obsessive helped have always been , but now the needs for validation from female subordinates students, research assistants, etc is something I have to work incredibly hard to control. I exercise, do yoga, meditate. Great article Natasha!
The more I fight it, the more it rings in my head. As you said, creating quiet time to relax does help. I think your comment is admin overkill and a bit unnecessary. I am forty years old and was diagnosed with bipolar in my twenties. I tried numerous meds and finally stopped trying because after a brief feel better phase I always seemed to slip into the lowest levels of depression that I experience,which means suicidal thoughts and even attempt not to mention I had started cutting also. Quite honestly it was like I was diagnosed with the bipolar given meds and that was it,I had now idea what all that included,the things it could cause etc,and now for the first time ever,I feel just a little less alone reading the other posts on here so thanks for doing this page.
I often wonder and am unsure wether or not I have bipolar disorder. I have never harmed myself, but I think about it whenever I look at a pair of scissors. Except when there are good times. Today I typed what I was feeling- just literally a stream of my consciousness into google and this site was the fourth result. So typing it all out, it seems pretty clear that I could be bipolar.
I guess my question is, at what point do I see someone about this? On a similar note, a friend of mine was recently diagnosed with an eating disorder and depression. I apologize for the rambling comment. Thank you all for your insight and honesty. Finding this blog and reading your entries has really helped me this morning. It is so important in this fight for mental health to know that we are not alone. I have never posted on a blog.. I guess I have to expect that even though I am on a good medicine regime, I will always have times that I struggle with obsessive thoughts that steal my joy.
Your suggestions for getting through these times are so helpful. Thank you again and please continue to share your feelings and coping mechanisms. There is always something we can learn from eachother. To me the obsessive thoughts are the worst part of bipolar. I literally get guilt trips from things that I did in the second grade and they are vivid memories, not just hazy thoughts.
It also drives my family crazy because apparently I will tell them something and then half hour later, I will tell them the same thing, over and over. The only thing that I found that helps is listening to music. I used to have obsessive thoughts.
I think I have even replied to this thread before. My counselor suggested Luvox, and what a difference! I can go to sleep without my mind jumping from one embarrassing thing to another. I can go to work comfortably without feeling everyone is judging me for something I did four years ago. I have family members who, with my best interest at heart, will tell me not to obsess.
It makes things worse. If I could I suppose that would take care of my obsessing. Therapy works in theory, but in practice I fail every time. The only things that seem to calm me down to any degree other than my best friends and my dad are podcasts, cartoons, NPR and comedy channels on my satellite radio. And klonopin. Everything slows down but it takes a long time to stop. I came across this and this is me exactly. Do you have any problems making decisions, even simple ones, and then catch yourself on this and get more stressed out? I am married 7 years and have 2 kids and still obsess about events that have happened to me since I was a teenager.
Your mind is elsewhere while she is talking you. I usually work from home but we have out of town clients in the office today and will be here for two days. Ultimately I have decided to go ahead and spend the night. Rationally I know that I need to be around people. My mind wanders frequently. I know just what you mean. My focus and attention have really flown out the window due to obsessive thoughts. Its only gotten worse over the past two years..
Im really worried. I have exactly the same. Conversations bad or good, mainly bad stay with me…. I do have the awareness that its weird that i can get mad about something what happened 5 years ago, and that person was not in my life for the last 16 years. Its a draw in my head. And before i know it i think, why didnt i say that. And then my husband asks me when?
How can i say 10 years ago? I know i take the extreme solution to not have many friends anymore. Iam working on meditation now. Pff what a challenge right…. My sister is bipolar and a meth addict. She has this guy that she does everything for. She steals from my parents but she gives him the money. He sleeps with many other women and wants nothing to do with my sister. She will wait for him to show up she will sleep in ditches waiting for him to show up.
What can we do? I remind myself that i have control over my obsessive thoughts and I can make them stop; I just choose not to sometimes. I obsess over problems that need fixing that are pretty much beyond my control, working on them, obsessing, working myself into an anxietypsychobeast that is probably a physical danger to others, so I medicate with seroquel.
Ugh… I always count stirs when I stir things, I count steps on stairs, obsess over the way the recycling must be put in order in the recycling bin… goofy stuff. My counselor recently told me about a medication called Luvox. It has been a godsend. My racing thoughts are greatly minimized, and I can go to bed without loud music and talking going around and around in my head. And conversations in my head are gone. I was diagnosed with bi polar type 2 and anxiety disorder 10months ago. The panic attack happened first then when i saw my psychiatrist she discovered after seeing her 3times a week that i was also bi polar.
Another obsession is with fashion, and redesigning my house. So when i get ideas from magazines etc. It came to a point wherein i had to re-upholster my sofa, and ended up re-doinng everything from curtains, carpet, decor, frames etc etc. Its like when im in the hype, i cant stop. I get this high from it. I even dream of designs, i never get deep sleep cause im half awake thinking of ideas. And when i get up, i wake up to the same ideas. Its hard. Other times, i find that going to the gym is also very helpful, keeps my busy, makes me feel good and distracts me plus it tires you and gives u less energy to obsess.
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